Becoming a Better Ally

I have known people who are polyamorous and out about it for awhile, but over the last few weeks, I have had the realization about myself that I need to be more openly and comfortably polyfriendly.  I am trying to keep educating myself and be aware when my own assumptions about life are colored by the value I place on monogamy.  I want to be able to recognize, acknowledge, and problematize that my own monogamous desires are not shared by everyone, and to speak up when others also use their assumptions about an inherent value on monogamy to evaluate the world and other people.

I am growing particularly more cognizant of this as its own kind of advocacy as more and more of my heterosexual friends are identifying as poly.  I firmly believe that poly is a queer identity and I am becoming aware that my heterosexual poly friends are coming into a queer identity abruptly, not necessarily having already accepted queerness as a mantle.  I hope that more monogamous queer folk will accept lovingly and fully our poly siblings and vocally and actively the systems of oppression surrounding assumption and validation of monogamous relationships.

I know I am still learning and I want help and advice as I strive to be a better ally.